The cycle of abuse

There is a weird vicious cycle we are trapped in, people who suffered some degree of abuse in the past abusing the new generation causing them to have similar dysfunctionalities and problem. We are passing the abuse from one generation to the next like a virus.

Most of us seem to be completely oblivious even to what abuse is and what negative consequences it can create.

 This is why we make all kind of excuses or create all kind of scapegoats to blame the illness that originates with abuse. I don't claim to know everything but some things are so obvious that all what you have to do in order to understand the cause of them is to be willing to question things and make the obvious connections, that most people seem to refuse to want to make.

If you look at the past we have done a great amount of progress as far as reducing violence. If people that lived in the middle eves might wahe been traumatised by public execution, being stoned for adultery or being converted with force to whatever religion the king prefered etc.

It is not like we don't have any violence in the modern world but it is drastically reduced, unfortunately we replaced violence with lying. Punching someone in the face accomplishes the same thing as being lye.

If you are walking on a dark alley and someones holds you at gun point, does so because by doing so is going to make you do something you wouldn't do other wise it creates an unfair exchange between you too, where you are giving all the valuable you have with you at the time in exchange for nothing, the same can be accomplished through lyes. If you think you are going to start a business with someone and you put money in together to start the business, but your partner takes off with the money the outcome of these two is the same you still lost all your valuables without getting nothing in return.

Abuse is either done with a fist or is done with a lye. A lye can poison and traumatise you just as much as being punched in the face does. The only difference is that you are not going to get a bruise.

The virus of the modern world is not so much violence as much as it is lying, most of what we have functions on lyes from politics, marketing to the peoples individual relationships and the way they educate and raise their children.

 We are in the process of figuring out strategies that not only allows you to make a living, have a relationship but also it allows you to keep your integrity.

Most of the emotional and behavioural aberration you can see in the world today, is caused by lyes.  

The abuse is generally followed by confusion, after all how can you stay connected to reality when your perception of reality is being constantly poisoned with lyes. If you successfully confuse someone enough their perception of reality is going to be so distorted that they are going to do really hurtful things to themselves for the benefit of their abuser. This could lead to serious and dramatic negative consequences. Below there is a flow chart with some of the consequences chronic abuse can create.

I know some of these are generalisation and there are other contributing factors, but there is definitely a relationship between abuse, mental illness, poverty, psychosomatic illness, dysfunctional relationships and crime.