How to solve your problems!

We all have problems, no matter who you are or what you do it seems that you will unavoidable end up with some sort of problems on your hand.

There are only three types of problems you can get:

1. When something is wrong with your body.

It could be a health problem or an insecurity you might have, this is for sure an infinite cycle. Because we age not only our bodies are more prone to illness when we get older but we also get less attractive, so the problems you have right know are nothing in comparison with the problems you are going to get in a few years.

2. You are in some sort of conflict with someone.

With enough discipline you can avoid most conflict in your life, but not all of it, beside there is conflict that you don't cause you sort of just find yourself in it without ever planing to cause anyones else problems. It is impossible to like everybody or be liked by everybody. If you are not causing any conflict there is a chance that at any point you will be the victim of a violent act.

3. You don't have enough of something you need or want.

Getting what you need to survive in the modern world is getting easier and easier, it seems that the more we get the more we want. It is hard to imagine that at a point people died of starvation or they were eaten by lions. The problem we have in today's world are more on the lines of not affording the latest generation of technology or dying of a heart attack because you can help yourself at shoving junk food in your face. No matter how much money and resources you accumulate there will always be something that you don't have enough of even if is something that you can buy with money like love and friends. Everybody is deprived in certain ways to a certain degree.

Solving your problem is impossible because they are infinite cycles, thees three problems you will always have a version of them to a certain degree. You can at best only manage them.

The biggest problem you can have however is when you assume that you are going to become happy when you have no more problem, which is never going to happen. Then life becomes a process of chasing the white rabbit you can hardly keep up with it and when you get close enough it just takes of and puts a significant distance between you again you will never catch it.

If you are not happy now with what you have you will never bee. True happiness comes when you own your emotions when you stop using scapegoats to blame your anxiety on and your lack of happiness. Because happiness is something internal you will never find it in the world through making a lot of money or a relationship etc.

The assumption that happiness is going to happen when you accomplish certain goals in your life and eliminate your problems is a coping mechanism for your anxiety that comes from the realization that you are not special. At the end of the day there is nothing that makes you immune to violent acts, pain, failure and eventually death. When you will stop distracting yourself with external distractions from your existential anxiety, not only you will become very functional and manage your problems better but you will also find happiness.