How to change your life!

If you suffer of any mental health issues or you are in a dark place right know, what brought you in this position is not a conversation, reading a book, a blog article or any other activity considered therapeutic that people use to help them heal. What created the situation in which you are today was a series of negative experiences that created a bad momentum in your life.

After all your life is change by experiences, if anything else has any value is if it serves as a precursor for action to create a series of positive experiences which will change the negative momentum in your life.

Because we live in a bipolar world the best life you can have is one in which you have both negative and positive experiences, some of us get stucked in a negative momentum because we reject the negativity. By trying so hard to get out of the dark places you create a stucked in quick sand effect, the more you struggle the dipper you immerse yourself in the sand.

Opposites attract if you are in a certain emotional state right know it is almost certain that you will eventually be in the opposite emotional state in just a matter of time. This is an infinite cycle everybody goes through, until you die and nobody really knows what happens after.

It is easy enough to tell someone that it is trapped in to a negative cycle to just have some positive experiences and everything is going to be fine. The person that is in chronic negativity also has chronic emotional pain that blocks the possibility of enjoying almost everything.

Whenever you are in emotional pain you tend to see the world in a different way and other people see you differently, and this things diminish your experience. Nobody is trapped in any of the extremes but depending on how much do you reject the negative you will have the tendency to be predominantly more negative than positive.

In order to create the wright circumstances for positive experience to happen, you have to stop trying to get ride of the negative in your life but unfortunately this is harder than it seems because our bodies give us feedback based on how well we perform so you are probably in a considerable amount of emotional pain. In an attempt to get rid of the pain you struggle and sink even deeper in to the negativity.

The first step is to learn to control your emotional pain. After years of struggle and trial and error I discovered a process that yet failed to let me down. The process is composed out of four steps:

1. Stop all your distractions that allow you to sooth your emotional pain;
2. Focus on just the pain for a short period of time, no longer than a few seconds. Let the pain completely flood your body;
3. Allow yourself to go back in to your distractions and give you relief from the very intense pain;
4. Repeat the entire process for at least 20 times or until your pain has significantly decreased.

This simply works because by going in to the negative extreme in a gradual way, you attract the opposite of it. You should get relief relatively quickly, it is very important to don't stay for to long in the pain because it will become unbearable very quick and cause you to quit.    

After you get relief from your chronic emotional pain you can move with ease in life and bring a more positive energy in what you are trying to accomplish, which is going to increase the likelihood of a positive experience.