Like most of the negative emotions unfortunately gets a bad connotation, when in fact hate is simply a self preservation instinct.
It is problematic when someone remains fixated on hate, but not because hate is bad or unhealthy, as much that that person fails to find a resolution to his hate in a relatively shorter period of time.
In order to hate people you have to stay around people that are hurting you in some way.
Sometimes this happens because people are trapped with eachothers, like for example if you are kid going to school that is getting constantly bullied. Because is not the decision of the child to go or not to school he is going to keep getting bullied and develop a deep feeling of chronic hate towards his bullies.
Simultaneously people that internalize the abuse from the past, are conditioned to stay with people that they hate even when they have the option to leave at any point. But their habits from their past prevents them from breaking contact with the people they hate. Like in the case of someone who develops Stockholm syndrome. For example women who stay in relationships with their abusive husbands, when they could leave the relationship or divorce them at any time.
It is worse to have the available option to leave and stay in an unfair abusive relationship, if you are trapped in abuse before you internalize the abuse you hate the people who are holding you trapped there. If you chose to stay your hatred is going to go towards yourself, you are going to become self loathing.
Just because you stay in that relationship your hate is not going to go away, not only is it going to persist but you are going to have some really bizarre and unhealthy expressions of it. Which I think most of us have the image of unhealthy expressions of hate into our mind, this is why we associate such a negative connotation to it.
Some example of that are: passive aggressive behaviour, hate speech, hate crimes, self hatred and low self esteem etc.
Behind hate there is unexpressed anger, like all negative emotions are part of the fight or flight system, hate is a different nuance of anger. To express the anger behind the hate in a healthy productive way, generally speaking that means to channel your anger into assertiveness.
When it comes to me,I don't really hate people anymore because I don't keep contact with the people who hurt or want to hurt me, and if it happens to feel hatred towards someone it doesn't last very long.
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