The second reason people hide who they are is because they think they did something wrong without actually doing anything. This type of confusion it is the result of chronic abuse, where the victim of abuse is made to believe that there is something wrong with her.
Further on because he is weaken from the abuse, and lacks a bond with someone to protect him, this vulnerability is going to invite others to abuse him. Not to place the responsibility fully on the victim, but the way the victim perceives the abuse can have an outcome on the severity and duration of the recovery of the abuse.
The way we signal to others that we don't have a bond is by hiding the truth, if that person is not willing to tell the truth or he doesn't have anybody close enough that is willing to protect him then it becomes an easy victim where is easy to avoid the negative consequences of having to abuse someone.
In particularly man have a problem with being weak, unfortunately society has bizar standards for man where you are not allowed to express certain emotions like fear or sadness, so in order to fit as an attempt to get love, we hide that we are weak.
And hiding the truth not only makes it impossible to have intimacy with other people, but simultaneously signals to others that you don't have strong bonds and that you are a safe victim to abuse.
As victims of abuse tend to be self loathing, they will blame the abuse on their weaknesses rather than look objectively at the situation. They will often conclude that the negative outcome of their interactions is because one of their personal flaw rather than
Being week is not a crime, hiding your weakness is not strength is cowardness. If revealing your weaknesses is meet with hostility by other people this simply reveals the quality of people you have around you. An ashole is someone who is willing to use other people vulnerabilities for his own pleasure or benefit.
As the old saying goes, you teach people how to treat you!
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