Normalizing negativity

Negativity is like the fiber from food, it doesn't give you any pleasure and the direct outcome of ingesting it is s**t, but because it was so present in everything that we ate we adapted to use it and function properly with it.

So if it is not present in your diet you are going to get sick and suffer.

Like the increased presence of process food, today we also have more ways to avoid negativity, we have more ways to avoid it and stay in denial.  

Avoiding negativity is like process food gives you a lot of pleasure in the moment, but makes you sick in the long term. By avoiding negativity you avoid the benefits that it can offer you, like for example: it is necessary to fail in order to grow and improve, rejection is quality control when it comes to relationships etc.

There is also negativity that comes from the unpredictability of life things like accidents, which has a more destructive impact on your life and almost no benefit. However there is a difference, how someone who is tempered by being constantly challenged, is going to handle this types of situations, rather than someone who lived a life relatively unchallenged.

Somehow a lot of us were programed to believe that we are special, and as special superior beings we are immune from the normal hardship regular people go through. Probably this is the worse form of sabotage, if you want to make someone completely incompetent and self destructive try to convince him that he is above everybody.

To some degree this is what a lot of religious ideologies are doing, and a lot of the contemporary stories of our culture, they serve as tools of denial through which the individual that is subjected to them gets to escape the negative aspects of life. A hero is someone who succeed when it shouldn't, worshiping that person that succeeded despise the seemingly impossibility of his success it is a way to deny failure and rejection.

Which maintains the vicious cycle through which civilizations go through, the raise at power of a nation after they become incredibly powerful they become corrupt and collapse.

This is why virtue like humility is so important, it is the antidote to fake entitlement and incompetence.

The person that has a corrupted mind, while experiencing some negativity might ask herself: "why me, what have I done to deserve this!?", followed by a long negotiation with magical deities where a strong case is constructed, that the magical deity should make an exception and bend the laws of physics just this time to spare that person of his pain and consequences.

This is probably one of the hardest truth to swallow, I know it took me ears to internalize it. Nobody is special, nobody is immune from anything.