The quality of the work they do dramatically decreases instead of working really hard to pleas the customers and their boss to potentially get a salary raise, there is a substantial effort to create the illusion of hard work to don't seem useless and replaceable, also the amount of innovation and progress is closed to zero.
The same thing happens in relationships that people take for granted.
The fist relationships you have are with your parents, sibling and more distant relatives, this relationships are unique in the sense that you didn't chose thees people to be your family, yet they will probably have the biggest influence on you.
This is why it is very important for the adults that choose to bring new people in to the world to be responsible and do a good job at parenting.
The way things have been going so far, if you did a horrible job at being a parent for as long as you are not doing something illegal there are no negative consequences for being a bad parent.
This is why for the most part the quality of the parenting is comparable with the work done in a socialist factory.
When I was a child love was presented to me as an obligation, my mother would force me to hug and kiss all the relatives that would come and visit us even the weird ones that smelled funny that you would see only once a year at family events.
The problem with this view of love is that, it is actually not love. You can't chose who to love and who you don't love is involuntary and is something you earn. The reason why this happens is a form of forcing the child to pretend to like his family instead of earning his love.
Unfortunately there is a selfish reason for having children, is to have someone to take care of you you when you get old not so much to be responsible of creating a new human beings. I have no problem with people taking care of their parents, but this can become an unfair trade, when the quality of the parenting you received is not to great.
This learn behaviours and patterns left unchecked can sadly be carry in your relationships as an adult. I could argue that celebrations like valentine's day and even marriage have a socialist component. Where instead of people taking care of each other's need they manipulate or bribe each others.
To care about someone is to cater to someones needs, if someone is showering you with compliments and buy you present that doesn't necessarily means that that person is loving you as much as is trying to create the illusion of love, as an attempt to distract your attention to how unfair your relationship is.
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