The World is Made Out of Crushed Souls!

The natural state of the world is one of failure, disappointment and eventually death. It was always like this, and i have no reason that it will change any sooner.

So if the statement form above is true how can you ever have any chance of living a happy life?

My definition of happiness is that: happiness is the emotional reward for the effort in the pursuit of pleasure. The big mistake that a lot of people make is that they believe that they will be happy when they become successful, in reality success offers only temporary satisfaction. This is the mechanic that feeds the addictive behaviors. Is an attempt to compensate for the lack of happiness in someone life with pleasure. Pleasure is different and has other purpose, it is the reward received at the end for successfully accomplishing a task like for example eating, or receiving your salary.    

Happiness is the emotional reward you get from the attempt of accomplishing this end goals, because it requires hard work and a semnificant energy expansion, in order to keep you motivated in doing the work your body rewards you for the actually work. While simultaneously still gives you feedback for your progress in the moment, it is like a game of hot and cold with emotions when you are getting closer to your goal you get to feel god before you accomplish your goal, when you start to get farther away from your goal you experience negative emotions like anger, frustration, depression, disappointment etc.  

This making happiness a variable emotion that fluctuates from minute to minute from day to day. What brings a lot of unhappiness in people life is the confusion left over from the abuse they suffered in the past. This was inflicted through the process of punishment and reward like this you received a negative reinforcement for a normal or positive action. Like for example when you was in school and received bad grades whenever you failed a test. Because it is normal to fail i could argue that this is how human being learn, but the feedback you received from the outside was negative making you believe that you deviated from the course when in fact you are right on track.


One of the biggest tragedy that ever happened in the history of the humanity was the implementation and use of external punishment and rewards, it is what the education system is based on in most countries, and is literally destroying people capacity to be resilient. After all externally controlling someone is a the definition of abuse.

What makes happiness really last is realizing that failure is a normal part of life and is unavoidable, Like  this whenever you fail and receive some negative feedback from your body you realize that this is normal part of life and you are still on course and after your negative emotion and bodily sensation past you can restore to a state of being generally happy.