Force vs. Violence

The difference between violence and force in a nut shell is that violence implies violating someones wrights.

The root of evil is self preservation at any cost no matter how many people you hurt. The illusion in modern society is that force is violence so you can`t use any force, I remember when i was a kid i wasn't allowed to express anger or frustration every-time i would express this emotions someone would disapprove of me. So the way i adapted to that situation was to suppress my anger which eventually made me depressed and self loathing.

Whenever you give someone wrong feedback on good or normal actions creates confusion in that persons mind. This of course is an element of abuse if you confuse people you can make them self-sabotage for your inters.

So what is force? Force is the expressed energy with the intent to change something. If you want to change your life you need force contrary to the popular belief from eastern philosophy or new age principles that you should not resist anything. There is some wisdom in the fact that you shouldn't resist the things that you can`t change like the past.

This is what Freudian psychology would call neurosis, a rejection of reality in an attempt to replace it with fiction. On the other hand if you have any deficiencies in your life that are lowering the quality of your life. This can only be overcome with force by resisting your emotions and behaviors in the present. If i have a car that needs to be repaired according to the new age principle of not resisting anything i would just let it sit there and things are going to repair by themselves. That car is not going to repair itself without force either force that you need to express or higher someone qualify to fix it.

Not only is not going to repair itself or the universe is going to sent a mechanic without me doing anything. But the longer i wait, that car is going to get in a worse state and decay.

How to tell the difference between Force and Violence   

If violence is self preservation at any cost then, this means that you are hurting other peoples for your own benefit. Violence implies violating someones wrights, while force is self preservation without violating anyone's wrights. So if you can figure out wright from wrong it is easy to understand if you are using violence or force. There is an older word that has some degree of stigma associated to it: morality. All what moral and immoral means is right and wrong.

Doing something right means doing something without hurting anyone. This is not necessarily the best in your own inters. For example if someone decides to hit his head on a concrete wall over and over again, is not necessarily a good hobby but is not wrong. You are still going to fell emotional pain because you sabotage yourself you are still losing something. And losing is the only thing that triggers emotional pain. Your body is going to give you feedback that you need to change something.

Most of self-sabotage occurs as an effect of being a victim of violence. Because the purpose of abusing someone is to make it self-sabotage for your own inters.